In the de-cluttering side of my business, I work with people who often struggle to let go of their belongings. It is a process that I have since been reflecting on, as it covers a large scope of situations.
Letting go of physical objects requires to let go on a much deeper level. It represents something different for everyone and always echoes within ourselves. So how exactly does it affect us?
Researchers at Yale University recently identified that two areas in your brain associated with pain light up in response to letting go of items you own and feel a connection towards. This is the same area of the brain that lights up when you feel physical pain. Physical pain! Crazy strong feeling right?! Your brain views the loss of one of your valued possessions as the same as something that causes you physical pain. And the more you’ve invested emotionally or financially in an item, the more you want to keep it around. All of this explains how it is sometimes really hard to let go of our possession even if they don’t serve us.
I see this a lot with my clients who keep objects that they sometimes don't need, want or even like. Because of memories attached, or if it was a present from people they care about. Sometimes even ALL of their kids drawing! That is a lot of dusty, unorganised paper. People tend to do this a lot which explains why so many have cluttered homes.
Letting go is scary, because it is asking us to trust the unknown, trust that we will be fine. It is asking us to let go of a feeling that things we possess represent. Feeling of reassurance, confort, continuity, security, memories...
So why go through this pain and not just settle for uncomfortable confort of what we know?
Letting go of objects is always the tip of the Iceberg. That is why it is such a powerful process.
I have had my share of people crying in my arms, but in the end, when I leave, what I see and hear is relief. But remember the a cluttered home means a cluttered mind.
Letting go is a way of reclaiming your freedom.
Go on, give it a go!